25-year-old goes ‘No Contact’ with his former work bestie after she sabotages his new relationship, revealing a deeper truth about a workplace love triangle: 'Watch your back'

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  • Couple standing back-to-back in the office.
  • [I'm] cutting off my work bestie because she’s sabotaging my dating life

    I (25M) have been close with Sarah (24F) for about two years. We work at the same company, and honestly, she was the person who helped me survive my first year here. We've always been super tight-the kind of
  • friends who grab drinks after a shift and vent about everything. I've always felt like I could be 100% open with her, which is rare for me.
  • The vibe shifted about three months ago when I started seeing Raiah. Raiah doesn't work in our department, but she's in the same building,
  • so we all end up in the same breakroom or at the same happy hours. As soon as I told Sarah I was serious about Raiah, the fake humor started. At first,
  • it was subtle. Sarah would make comments about Raiah's outfits or her annoying laugh. Then it got weirder. In front of our other coworkers, Sarah started
  • spreading rumors about Raiah-basically making up stories or exaggerating things to make Raiah look incompetent or high maintenance.
  • She'd say things like, Oh, I heard Raiah almost blew that presentation last week, followed by, Just kidding!
  • But seriously, you should probably pick someone more on your level, OP. She's way too much drama for you.
  • Man and his female coworker standing in the hallway together.
  • The problem is, Raiah is actually super chill and hasn't done anything to her. Last week, it peaked. We were at a group lunch and Sarah started joking about
  • how Raiah is only dating me to get closer to a promotion in my department. It was awkward, nobody laughed, and Raiah looked visibly upset. When I pulled Sarah
  • aside later to tell her to knock it off, she got super defensive. She told me she's just looking out for me because she knows me better than anyone and that
  • I'm being blinded by a pretty face. I asked her straight up if she had feelings for me, and she laughed in my face, called
  • me egotistical, and said she just hates seeing me settle for trash. I've had enough. The workplace is becoming toxic because Sarah is now giving
  • me the cold shoulder and telling our mutual work friends that I'm choosing a girl I just met over a loyal friend. I decided to officially cut her off. I stopped sitting
  • with her at lunch, I only talk to her about work-related tasks, and I blocked her on everything else.
  • Now some of our coworkers are saying I'm being too harsh and that I'm throwing away a real friendship over a girl I've only known for a few months. They think I should
  • just ignore her quirks because she's been there for me in the past. I feel like I'm just protecting my relationship and my
  • peace of mind, but the guilt is starting to creep in because we were so close. AITJ?
  • Safe Ad_7777 NTJ. Sarah ABSOLUTELY has feelings for you and is jealous as h L. Watch your back. Expect her to turn from trying to sabotage Raiah, to trying to sabotage you.
  • Front-Reference-1719 You didn't cut her off over a girl, you cut her off over disrespect. There's a huge difference. A real friend doesn't publicly humiliate your partner and then hide behind "I'm just joking,"
  • Traditional Coat8481 Loyal friends want their friends to live happy lives. and support them in getting there. Loyal friends don't humiliate their friend or their friend's friends just to make themselves look better.
  • ohemgee0309 NTJ. Either Sarah IS harboring secret feelings for you OR she is so territorial she can't bear for you to have someone in your life who will and should come before her in your life.

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